June 30, 2005

Character

"Character cannot be developed in ease and quiet. Only through experience of trial and suffering can the soul be strengthened, vision cleared, ambition aspired, and success achieved."
- Helen Keller


I have often wondered over the last several months why my surroundings seem to be filled with chaos. It feels like the things that I once could count on for stability and support are the very things that cause me to feel as though I could crumble at any given moment.

Life is that way. People and circumstances change every day. I am so thankful that my God is never changing! He is and always has been a constant source of love and support to me. No matter what stormy winds blow through my life, Jesus is right there, sheltering me with His scarred hand. He protects me from the winds that blow and the rain that pelts down upon me.

This quote gives me hope. To hear this profound statement that came from a woman who overcame such surrmounting odds gives me comfort. I can expect my character development through all the chaos and trouble that I have made my way through. I anxiously await my soul to be strengthened, my vision cleared, my ambition aspired, and my success achieved. What a thought!

June 23, 2005

People Pleasers

Here is a simple, rule-of-thumb guide for behavior: Ask yourself what you want people to do for you, then grab the initiative and do it for them.
-- Matthew 7:12 (The Message)


This scripture grabbed me when I read it. I was a people pleaser. I always had been. I believe it stemmed from childhood. Nevertheless, being a people pleaser is tiring and a never-ending job.

Every waking thought has always been about others, not myself. Worry has always been prevalent in my mind. Fretting over what someone will think if I do this. Worrying about what others will say about me if I do that. Constant worry, worry, worry.

The realization hit me recently that others do not live this way. Well, only people pleasers do.

People pleasers (hereto referred to as PP) are easily taken advantage of. Others can sense that a PP lives and feeds on the need to take care of others. It might not be intentional, but it does happen. A PP ends up feeling used and abused, which is exactly what is happening.

One of my biggest peeves is a "user" that makes the PP feel as though they (the PP) are doing that person a favor. I have seen that happen many times.

One PP I know told me once that she felt all used up. She told me that she knew she was being used because the people that were using her knew she would not say "no" to doing the dirty work. It's a crying shame that a person would go to that extreme of using another human being. This eventually led to the PP moving entirely to another state.

I guess with all my rambling what I mean to say is that we should do for others what we would like for them to do for us. If you know a People Pleaser, why don't you go out of your way today to do something extra special just for them. Help a PP to refill her/his well.

June 17, 2005

Happy Birthday!

Happy Birthday to me,
Happy Birthday to me,
Happy Birthday dear Hope,
Happy Birthday to me!

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June 15, 2005

A Happy Tired

I'm tired, but happy. It's been nearly two weeks. (Those of you who know me know what I'm talking about.) It has been an enjoyable, fulfilling, eventful and full visit. I'm happy, yet sad. Tired, yet satisfied.

I know my blogging has been sporadic at best lately. I have been extremely busy. I took a lot of classes this quarter, and it has been a challenge to complete them. Hopefully in a couple of weeks things will slow down and I will have more time to chat with you!

Hug the ones you love.